Marriage is the union of two souls who share a bond for the rest of their lives. Love, caring, kindness, friendship, help, communication, contentment, respect, and other kinds of traits and acts are supposed to be found in a marriage, however many muslim couples nowadays lack these. Here are advices for Muslim men to improve their marriages.
The Almighty Allah tells us in the Holy Quran,
“And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility in them; And He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought.” Quran (30:21)
He also tells us,
“And marry those among you who are single and those who are fit among your male slaves and your female slaves; if they are needy, Allah will make them free from want out of His grace; and Allah is Ample-giving, Knowing.” (Surah an-Nur, 24:32)
Various studies show that married people are physically and emotionally better. Marriage, according to Islam, is beneficial to us in a variety of ways. Marriage is also regarded as a means of attaining spiritual perfection in Islam.
The Prophet (S) said,
, “One who marries, has already guarded half of his religion, therefore he should fear Allah for the other half.”
How Beautiful! A person who legitimately fulfils his sexual desires is unlikely to be diverted by spiritual aspirations.
Treat your wife such that she proudly proclaims her husband to be the finest, who loves her unconditionally and considers her to be the most beautiful.
Prophet of Allah (SAW) said,
“The most perfect of believers is the one who is best in character, and the best of you is he who is best to his wives.” (Tirmizi #1162)
Treat your wife with respect. Love her, provide for her, protect her, and support her wherever possible. And when you notice a flaw in them, examine your own flaws and persuade yourself, “If I mend my wrongs, my wife will change her ways”.
The beginning of a marriage is so crucial, we should do everything we can to seek Allah’s pleasure. A man should strive to build a healthy environment with theirwives for their children. Parents must guarantee that Taqwa is the most essential factor in their children’s marriages. Some parents are dazzled by worldly things rather than wanting a lovely pious person for their child; from the start, they have put a good career, money, status, etc. before Allah, so automatically sending the wrong message to their child.
When a wife is feeling distressed, a husband should always be there to comfort her. Be a friend, a supporter, and a lover to her when she really needs you. Pray for the wellbeing of your wife and be around her when you’re all alone.
The Prophet (SAW) said,
“Treat women kindly, for women was created from a rib. The part of it that is most bent is the top. If you try to straighten it you will break it (and her breaking is her divorce), and if you leave it alone it will remain bent. So, treat women kindly.” [Sahih al-Bukhari 3331, Sahih Muslim 1468]
Islam is a lovely religion with many ayahs and surahs concerning marriage. There are several situations when Allah has given humans specific directives to identify single Muslims and celebrate marriage. Prophet Muhammad did this responsibility and encouraged his companions to do so as well. Marriage is a religious bond between a man and a woman that is supported by the Holy Scriptures as well as Prophet Muhammad’s outstanding teachings (P.B.U.H). Hope these advices push newly married men to be a better husband and may Allah provide us with the best.
