What Does It Mean To Be A Great Husband In Islam
On a regular basis, Muslim women are reminded of their position in a marriage by their family or community. With continuous reminders, it often becomes poisonous in a marriage since the husband is unaware of his responsibilities.
Let’s pour some ink on this issue and discuss on how a Muslim man can be an amazing spouse, protector, and provider. We seek to restore harmony by shedding light on traits and characteristics desirable in men, as well as what defines an ideal spouse according to Islamic Shariah.
We seek to restore harmony by shedding light on traits and characteristics desirable in men, as well as what defines an ideal spouse according to Islamic Shariah.
Why it is as necessary for a husband to strive for the ideal husband standard as he does for his wives to strive for the ideal Muslim wife standard?
In Islam, the goal of marriage is to seek tranquility of the spirit and serenity of mind so that the couple can love living together in an aura of love, kindness, joy, and partnership.
A happy married couple may establish the groundwork for raising children in a supportive and sustainable atmosphere. Almighty has portrayed it in the most compassionate and beautiful manner in The Holy Qur’an:
“And among His Signs is this, that Allah created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your [hearts]: verily in that are Signs for those who reflect.” [Qur’an 30:21]
Marriage is more than just a contract. In the most profound sense, it is an unification of souls.
Characteristics of an Ideal Husband
In this day and age, it is unusual for Muslim men and women to prioritize character, modesty, religious convictions, and morality. It appears that the criteria have shifted, and for many of us, an ideal Muslim spouse is one who appears intellectual, rich, and comes from a powerful family.
If you inquire, it is listed on the sidebar.In Islam, the ideal husband is one who is upright, has deep religious convictions, is devoted to Allah, and does not favour this worldly life above the life to come. An ideal spouse has good characteristics and enough courage, dignity, courteousness, patience, kindness, character strength, and wisdom to rise above any dislike of his wife in his dealings with her.
The believing individual doesn’t quite believe in blind love or severe hatred; his attitude is reasonable and balanced in both cases.
Explained by the Prophet (SAW) in a narration recorded by Muslim,
” A believing man should not hate a believing woman; if he dislikes one of her characteristics, he will be pleased with another.” [Sahih Muslim 1468 b]
Many spouses are often recognized for their great character and high morals outside the house, but when it comes to displaying the same courtesy, good character, and ethics at home, they tend to be a different person. They fail to notice that a person’s wife is the best evaluator of his character and actions. Therefore, the Prophet (SAW) said:
“The most perfect of believers is the one who is best in character, and the best of you is he who is best to his wives.” (Tirmizi 1162)
Furthermore, The Prophet (SAW) cautions all men saying:
“Treat women kindly, for women was created from a rib. The part of it that is most bent is the top. If you try to straighten it you will break it (and her breaking is her divorce), and if you leave it alone it will remain bent. So, treat women kindly.” [Sahih al-Bukhari 3331, Sahih Muslim 1468]
The Prophet (SAW) is the best model for a devout Muslim. As a result, A muslim obeys the Prophet’s commandments in all aspects of his life, including marriage and how he treats his wife. A true husband strives to emulate the Prophet’s (SAW) demeanor as a spouse. And then he incorporates it into his day-to-day interactions with his wife.
In regard to special relationship between a husband and his wife, the Prophet (SAW) said:
“The best of you is he who is best to his family, and I am the best of you to my family.” [Sunan Ibn Majah – 1977, ruled as sound hadith by Albani]
As a result, a devout Muslim spouse has no alternative but to obey the Prophet’s (SAW) counsel and put this into effect at all times.
The notion that Islam is a legitimate religion that gives the finest direction to mankind and protection to women is shown considerably by its justice and respectful teachings toward women, as well as its advice to husbands to treat their wives properly even if they despise them. This is unique and a privilege that women have never had in human history, except in the faith of Islam. Allah (SAW) says in the Qur’an:
(. . . live with them on a footing of kindness and equity. If you take a dislike to them it may be that you dislike a thing, and Allah brings about through it a great deal of good.) [Qur’an 4:19]